Building Donor Relationships

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29 Oct 2019


Arts and Culture

Convergent Note: The following article was recently published online by Forbes Nonprofit Council and written by Senior Project Director Carlotta Ungaro.

That other nonprofit bank account

When an individual or business makes that investment in your nonprofit, the funds go into the bank account. But what about their deposit into the nonprofit's other bank account?

In his book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Steven R. Covey coined the term 'emotional bank account' to describe personal relationships. If only one person is making deposits into the emotional bank account, the relationship becomes 'overdrawn,' and deteriorates.

In my experience, this concept is the same for building relationships with nonprofit donors or, as we call them, investors. When an individual or business invests in the organization's monetary bank account, they also make a deposit in the organization's relationship bank account. What's more, this is the account from which they expect to make withdrawals. Successful nonprofits make sure that they, too, make deposits into the donor relationship bank account. How does a nonprofit do that?

One stellar nonprofit I recently worked with had intentionally built strong relationships with all of its investors/donors, with frequent contact, including one-on-one meetings and councils offering ongoing support and channels for input regarding how the nonprofit functioned. This nonprofit also did a great job of communicating its successes in fulfilling its mission. The retention rate for investors exceeded 90%. Many increased their investments, and the nonprofit exceeded its fundraising goal.

Make investor benefits a priority.

At the most basic level, the nonprofit should have a list of investor benefits, and they should be written down. Standard benefits include receiving regular communications, usually via an e-newsletter, and invitations to the nonprofit's events and appropriate meetings. These are the 'nickel and dimes deposits.' Higher-level 'deposits' might include free tickets to an event or annual fundraiser, the individual or company's name listed on the website or as an event sponsor, or perhaps a leadership role on a committee or task force for your nonprofit.

Make time for investors.

I have found that the most effective way for a nonprofit to make deposits in the emotional bank account is to foster genuine relationships with investors. The head of the nonprofit, whether it is a paid or unpaid position, should build into their schedule a regular block of time to spend time with investors. Interaction in person is preferred, but if distance or time makes this a challenge, routine phone calls or conversational emails can work in building rewarding relationships with investors. To effectively manage your interactions with investors, consider using customer relationship management (CRM) software to track communications efficiently, and set up reminders.

Reaching out to investors regularly is only the start of effective investor communication. There are two communication strategies that can create solid value for investors. The first is ensuring investors believe their opinions, as well as their dollars, will positively impact the nonprofit's strategies. Again, Steven R. Covey has addressed this with habit five: 'Seek first to understand, then to be understood.' Approaching your conversations with investors with this mindset could yield a solid financial return on your investment and theirs.

The second strategy is to make it about them, even when discussing the nonprofit's goals and accomplishments. The investor makes it possible for the organization to execute its strategies and reach its goals. By demonstrating to each investor repeatedly how their investment in your organization is having an impact, you will be able to show them that their deposit is generating a good return for their investment.

Just as in business, getting new investors in your nonprofit can often cost more than retaining existing investors. Finding time to make those deposits in your organization's relationship banking account can take a back seat to mission execution. However, prioritizing it as a key strategy to accomplish the organization's mission could make a difference in the organization's success.

About The Author

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Carlotta Ungaro, CCE, IOM

Senior Consultant

Department: Team

For most of my career, I have had the honor to work for or with nonprofits focused on building their local communities. I find it extremely rewarding to see a community work together addressing a need.

What makes the difference in a nonprofit’s success? I believe the first step for any nonprofit to be successful is to understand and clearly define its mission, but that is not enough. I’m passionate about having a process that brings the mission to fruition. That includes identifying goals with measurable outcomes, strategies, and tactics. As a member of the Convergent team, I have the opportunity to help a variety ofnonprofits reach their fundraising goals. This allows the nonprofit to focus on fulfilling its mission to make a difference in the community.


Carlotta has spent more than 25 years working with nonprofits providing strategic planning and developing measurable outcomes to propel growth and development for its members and their communities.

Since joining Convergent in 2018, Carlotta has helped clients raise more than $17 million, including more than $2.5 million for the Abilene Industrial Foundation, quadrupling previous fundraising efforts; nearly $3 million for the Greater Macon (Ga.) Chamber of Commerce, nearly tripling the amount raised in their previous campaign; and $1.5 million in Rowan County, NC, in their 2020 inaugural campaign that began during the pandemic.

Carlotta is also part Convergent’s leadership team and Asking RightsTM team, providing impact analyses for our clients’ bold initiatives.

Prior to joining Convergent, she served as CEO for three chambers of commerce in Georgia, North Carolina and South Carolina. At each, she created and executed mission-focused strategic plans increasing membership, retention, and top-level investment.

Carlotta’s knowledge of economic and community development, public policy and coalition building is an asset to our clients. 

Summary of Experience

  • Raised more than $17 million in capital campaigns, including over $1 million during the 2020 COVID shutdown.
  • CEO for three chambers with a consistent track record of increased top-level investors &  membership . Accolades during her chamber of commerce tenure include a local NAACP Community Bridge Builder Award for work on voting issues and the Association of Chamber of Commerce Executives top communication award for a campaign supporting the local Marine Corp base.
  • Community Involvement: Senoia Development Authority board chair, CommonSense American Ambassador- Georgia, Newnan-Coweta County Chamber of Commerce member and  ZTA Southern Atlanta West Alumni Chapter board member.
  • Professional involvement: Georgia Economic Developers Association member. Association of Chamber of Commerce Executives.  
  • MBA in Marketing: Georgia State University. BS in Marketing: Georgia Southwestern State University.